Affair Recovery & Infidelity Therapy in Waukesha, WI
Support for the deepest shock, hurt, and confusion that has turned you and your family upside-down.
No one enters into romantic relationships prepared for this.
You discovered the betrayal with your ears and eyes but your head and heart can’t fathom the truth of it. Suddenly nothing in life makes sense anymore. You’re constantly racing and aching, not sure how you’ll make it through the day or how you’ll decide what to do next.
Understanding Infidelity, Betrayal Trauma, & Affair Recovery
The hurt of betrayal is unlike any other because of the assault on trust. By nature, we lean into what we believe is safe; and our partner’s love, commitment, and honesty should be predictably strong and available. When you learned of the alternate reality that was going on behind the scenes of what you could see, you may feel foolish, disgusted, or discarded.
The partner who was hiding and acting out has their own torture; very different, but still painful! You’re likely shocked and ashamed by how far you got into this mess. You may or may not know why or how you got here, but you absolutely know it’s not the person you aspire to be. You long to earn trust back and wonder how it could ever be possible after what you’ve done.
The good news is: there is a path! It is not straight or short, but it is predictable; and it leads to clarity, growth, and resolve.
Hi, I’m Bethany LeMieux, a Licensed Professional Counselor in Waukesha, WI. In my 14 years of counseling experience, I have devoted the last 7 years to specifically serve affair recovery, betrayal trauma, and infidelity. I have extensive experience working with each part of the partnership: the one who betrayed, the one who has been betrayed, and the couple.
When there is commitment to humility, learning, and consistency from the offender, and acknowledgement of hurt and (eventual) compassion and grace extended from the offended, relationships can be regrown!
The biggest question you keep asking yourself
Should I stay or should I go?
Everyone has a different limit for what they are willing to endure.
There is no universal rule for how much you should tolerate, how many chances you should give, or what your breaking points should be.
Therapy is the place to quiet the noise of expectations, pressure, and guilt to untangle your truest thoughts and feelings to act in confidence.
You may be wondering…
Can trust be rebuilt? Do I want to rebuild it?
Why did this happen? How do we make sure it never happens again?
Why am I staying? Because of hope, obligation, fear, or love?
What would happen if I leave? Will I regret it?
What would it require for me to stay? Will they do what I need?
How do we talk about this without a fight?
How do I stop obsessing over the details? Should I ask for more details?
Is it possible to forgive? Will I be angry and hurt forever?
How do I know they’re really remorseful? Do they always lie?
How do I cope with intrusive images and triggers?
How do we rebuild intimacy and feel normal again?